Session #2
Maintaining a Conversation:
- How to 'Trade Information'
- Improving 'Conversation Flow'
Important skills we will cover this week include:
1. Characteristics of Good Friendships – Building on what we covered in Week 1.
2. Rules for Trading Information - Building on what we covered in Week 1.
3. Steps for Starting Conversations - Building on what we covered in Week 1.
Important NEW skills we will be learning in Week 2 are:
Maintaining Conversations - Building on what we covered in Week 1.
• Don't brag
• Don't be the police
• Use good body boundaries
• Use good volume control
• Use good eye contact
• Don't be argumentative
• Listen to your friend
• Ask open-ended questions
• Don't be repetitive
Parents, Remember that our students respond well to:
• Praise e.g 'Nice job trading information and common interests'.
• Offering suggestions/constructive feedback e.g 'How about next time we also ask more follow-up questions'
• Focusing on strengths e.g 'I like how you showed your friend you were listening during that conversation. That was a great follow-up question.'
Important skills we will cover this week include:
1. Characteristics of Good Friendships – Building on what we covered in Week 1.
2. Rules for Trading Information - Building on what we covered in Week 1.
3. Steps for Starting Conversations - Building on what we covered in Week 1.
KEEPING CONVERSATIONS ON TRACK
Conversational Topics
Common Conversational Topics Among Teens/Young Adults
- School or work gossip
- Video games/computer games
- Classes/major
- Problems with friends
- Computers/technology
- Exams/papers/schoolwork
- Problems with family
- Comic books/anime/manga
- Movies
- College and job applications
- TV shows
- Sports
- Parties/get-togethers
- YouTube videos/viral videos
- Cars/motorcycles/bikes
- Weekend activities
- Internet websites
- Celebrities
- Meet-up groups
- Music/concerts
- Fashion/clothes
- Social clubs/activities
- Books
- Shopping
- Hobbies/interests
- News/media/politics
- Makeup/hair
Rules/Ettiquette for Two way Conversations
Don't be repetitive
Listen to your friend
Ask open-ended questions
Don't brag
Don't be argumentative
Don't police*
Don't tease*
Use good volume control*
Use good body boundaries*
Use good eye contact*
Perspective Taking Questions for Social Coaching
What was that like for that person?
What do they think of you?
Are they going to want to talk to you again
Home Missions
Call or video chat with family member or friend
Arrange a phone call or video chat to trade information.
Go over the rules for trading information before the call.
Social coaches should ask young adults the following social coaching questions after the call
What was the common interest?
What could you do with that information if you were going to hang out?
Young adults and social coaches should practice starting and maintaining a conversation, trading information, and finding common interests.
Go over the rules for starting and maintaining a conversation and trading information before practicing.
Social coaches should ask young adults the following social coaching questions after practicing
What was the common interest?
What could we do with that information if we were going to hang out?
Bring a personal item to trade information in your session next week
Bring a personal item such as music, game, book, pictures, favourite item e.g lego